Condolence: Hugh was my soulmate and the one true love of my life. When we met in 2009 on a romantic blind date at a vineyard, it was love at first sight. We helped each other heal from our divorces and built each other up as single parents. I am sure we made a lot of mistakes along the way, but we showed our kids a lot of love and a lot of fun. When we decided to separate in 2015, Hugh encouraged me to move to Florida to help my Mother during the last year of her life and to follow my dream working on sustainable development projects in Haiti and Uganda. I am so happy he released me to do this, it is time with my Mom that I would never get back. But he never let go of my heart and I would find him on my door step in Florida time after time. We rekindled the love and it came back even stronger than before. He moved me and my daughter in with him last year and we were planning our future together. And it brought his daughters great joy to know we were back together as a family and I would be here to take care of their Dad.
To be with Hugh, you had to share his sense of adventure. For his 60th birthday, we flew in a B-25 bomber over the Gulf of Mexico and ended the day at the magical Don Cesar pink castle on St. Pete Beach watching the sun set. We spent many weekends riding the Harley on the back-country roads, kayaking at our cabin in West Virginia or horseback riding with his daughters. He loved our vacations with my family in the Outer Banks every summer and my Dad loved him like a son and even traveled up from Florida to say his goodbye this week too. I loved to watch Hugh with his friends. He loved them fiercely and made each and every one of them feel special because they were in his eyes. He adored his sister and his cousin Mark was closer to him than his brothers. I am so thankful to be surrounded by this group of extended family these days…they make the days a little more bearable as we grieve together. I love you all so much.
Condolence: I didn’t meet my cousin, Hugh, until the age of six when my family moved from Florida to Maryland. His passing evokes in me a long and happy stream of conscience. Memories of his very blonde hair, Tonka Trucks in the dirt, and romping around the 25 acres he lived on. A brand new 85CC Kawasaki street bike that was quickly converted, through mishap, to a dirt bike. Fist fights (most frequently made formal with boxing gloves). Trying to shoot bats at dusk with a twelve gauge shotgun. Wrestling.
Hugh was always in good spirits. Always willing to lend a hand. He was a self-made man with a lot of energy, and knowledge about a lot of things facilitated because he had to be a “hands-on” guy. He wasn’t spoiled. He was also a “fun-hog”. Skiing, motorcycles, scuba and sky diving, and travel.
I am going to miss you, cousin, and am already wishing for that happy day I see you again.
Condolence: Having grown up in and around the Stolte family as Marydele's lifelong friend, I've known Hugh for most of his life. I knew him as a child complaining about taking care of his dad's chuckers, as a boy wrestler watching his weight and not able to eat all of his grandmother Mimi's wonderful crepes, as a grown man and daddy madly in love with and proud of his daughters. But when I think of Hugh now, all I see is his warm smile, crinkled eyes, I hear his chuckle, his ready laugh, feel his sincere welcome into his home and into his family. As a Stolte he was the middle child, and I always felt he was the balance point in the middle of the seesaw that was forever going up and down at Dundee. He may have seemed like the wild one at some point, but he was really the steady one. His steady light will shine on--in his children and in the hearts of all of us who loved him.
Condolence: Hugh, I will remember your sense of humor, generosity, strength of character, devotion to family, and joie de vivre. How sad to see such a robust life cut short. How inspiring to see a life so well lived.
Condolence: We met Hugh when he was dating a friend of ours 2 summers ago. The first time we met we immediately loved him. A kind and wonderful person plus we shared war stories about our highly energetic doggies. I remember when he first got Hula and his face lit up when he talked about her. We are so so sorry for your loss but so grateful for getting to know such a great guy. Plus I am thankful to my friend who asked him to come to my surprise 60th Party last February. We had said previously we would celebrate the big 60 all together and we did. Your family is in our prayers
Condolence: Eagle Scout, Senior Patrol Leader Troop 305, Captain of the wrestling team, two time County Wrestling Champion, Successful Business Man, and amazing father of two of the most beautiful and grounded daughters, that any family would be proud to call their own. Your quick wit and love of life will be sorely missed. I promise to be the best uncle that I can be to girls. I am proud to be able to call you my brother. You will always be one of the Stolte boys. Love, Brother John